And let's allow some women back into the equation, shall we? Because if you're going to wax poetic about male pleasure, you had better be ready to talk about its secret, unpleasant, ubiquitous cousin: female pain. Let's take bodies and the facts of sex seriously for a change.
The problem is rather that theirs is literally the only biological reality we ever bother to consider. The real problem isn't that we - as a culture - don't sufficiently consider men's biological reality. Sullivan, that would-be contrarian, is utterly representative. If you want an encapsulation of the habits of mind that made #MeToo necessary, there it is. That is to say, he imagines maleness can be isolated to an injectable hormone and doesn't bother to imagine femaleness at all. Sullivan claims he came to "understand the sheer and immense natural difference between being a man and being a woman" thanks to a testosterone injection he received. Not only is Sullivan bafflingly confused about nature and its realities, as Colin Dickey notes in this instructive Twitter thread, he's being appallingly conventional. Ladies, he writes, if you keep denying biology, you'll watch men get defensive, react, and "fight back." Feminism, he says, has refused to give men their due and denied the role "nature" must play in these discussions. #MeToo has gone too far, he argues, by refusing to confront the biological realities of maleness. Read on about the dangers of sexting from Everyday Health’s medical director, Mallika Marshall, MD.This is what Andrew Sullivan basically proposed in his latest, startlingly unscientific column.
You may also want to consider monitoring cell phone and computer use for further inappropriate behavior, and contacting the parents of the other child involved. Then make a plan to check in with your child about his or her text habits in the future. Talk with your teen about why and with whom they’re exchanging such messages, and discuss the potential consequences of their actions. If you spot any of these messages on your child’s phone, don’t just get angry and take away his or her text privileges. Here are just a few of the many (many!) examples of shorthand that teens and tweens use to sext: A lot of sexting is done in code, using acronyms and decoy words. But do you know what those flags are? Many sexually explicit messages aren’t actually that explicit - to parents, anyway. If you have teens, you’re likely already on the lookout for red flags. Sexting, the transmission of such messages and images, primarily between cell phones, is an increasing concern among parents - and though the study released today indicates it’s not as widespread a problem as we’d previously feared, such behavior can have serious consequences, not just for your child’s emotional well-being and privacy, but from a legal standpoint as well. But even more - up to 39 percent, according to a survey by the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy - have sent or received sexually suggestive messages, such as texts, e-mails, or IMs. 5, 2011 - Some 10 percent of tweens and teens have exchanged sexually suggestive photos via phone, the Internet, or other electronic media, according to a new study just published in the journal Pediatrics.